Friday, November 23, 2007

Megan Meier Re-Mix

Megan Meier would be 15-years old. Instead of celebrating that birthday earlier this month, Megan lays inside her crypt in a St. Charles, Missouri mausoleum — where she's been since she committed suicide last October. But, this story is only partly about Megan and what caused her to take her life. It's also about the responsibility a paper has to report completely and factually on a story it knows will work on people's emotions. In the end, the question is who deserves anonymity?

Megan Meier Suicide Stokes the Internet Fury Machine

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Megan Meier era uma adolescente gordinha depressiva com treze anos de idade. Seus pais a separaram de uma amiguinha por causa de conta no MySpace sem autorização deles. Com o passar do tempo, deram permissão para que ela abrisse conta própria no MySpace, com supervisão.Megan ficou toda animada com o aparecimento de um namorado virtual, Josh. Este a elogiava e a enredou até o golpe fatal: caiu na pele dela e disse que ela era tudo de ruim que se possa imaginar. A transcrição final do papo contém uma frase cruel de Josh, o qual havia espalhado para várias outras pessoas sua zoação da Megan. A última frase de Josh foi: -- O mundo seria melhor sem você nele.Os pais dela preparavam o jantar enquanto Megan se enforcou dentro do seu armário. É o terceiro caso de jovens que se suicidam por serem vítimas de assédio anônimo na Internet aqui neste país doido.Neste caso, o absurdo é que foram a mãe da "amiguinha", uma funcionária do negócio desta senhora e sua filha que aparentemente criaram "Josh." Deleitaram-se com os requintes de flertes enredando a menina até que partiram para a jugular.O Los Angeles Times alega na chamada de capa, clique para o link, que parece não haver castigo previsto para este tipo de crime, crime pessoal, assédio anônimo de outra pessoa. Crimes pessoais são: injúria, difamação, calúnia. Só que rumo ao final do artigo, uma advogada, a diretora executiva de a lebre que cortaria o tesão da tragédia se publicada na primeira página. Tom Zé mandou bem sobre jornais que jorram sangue em "Parque Industrial". Disco "Tropicália." [continued...]

Megan Meier MySpace Suicide: Countless Reactions to the Reactions

A love that never was. A wasted life. People are so damn cruel! From

The pieces to the puzzle that was Megan's suicide include a young girl with a deep, deep crush on someone she never met in person and the account of someone who really wasn't who he said he was. Toss in a sudden rejection of Megan by this phantom "friend" and it all came crashing down for her on October 16th, 2006. Her way of dealing with rejection was to hang herself... it wasn't long before bloggers got on the trail of the mother with a cruel sense of humor. The guilty party has been outed, her name, address, phone number, and employer known all over the internet. She's even earned a posting on The Journal says it kept Lori Drew's name out of the paper out of concern for the privacy of her daughter (Megan's ex-friend). There is also the matter that criminal charges were never brought against Drew or the others responsible for "Josh Evans.

Paul Byron also writes: The story was reported a year later in the St. Charles Journal.

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  1. This is Megan's mom, Tina Meier, and I wanted to update everyone on the details for the candlelight vigil for Saturday, November 24, 2007.

    *We are meeting at 6:00 p.m. at the Fort Zumwalt West Middle school parking lot.

    *Please bring a candle, cup to hold the candle and something to light the candle. (If you cut a small X in the bottom of the cup, you can slide the candle through it and then you won't have wax dripping on you)

    *We will then light the candle's shortly after 6:00 p.m. and start walking from the school down Waterford crystal drive towards Megan's house and end up in front of the Drew's house.

    *There is a common ground area across the street and we will have pa system and microphone. if anyone would like to speak, read a poem, etc., they are more than welcome.

    *This wonderful idea came from students who wanted to see justice for Megan and for that we are so happy. Nothing we can do will bring Megan back, but we can all learn from Megan and take a part of her with us everyday for the rest of our lives to try to be a better person and think about things we say to people before we say them!

    *****Remember this is a peaceful candlelight vigil******
    We hope to see everyone there!

  2. On Wednesday, October 21st, city officials enacted an ordinance designed to address the public outcry for justice in the Megan Meier tragedy. The six member Board of Aldermen made Internet harassment a misdemeanor, punishable by up to a $500 fine and 90 days in jail.

    Does this new law provide any justice for Megan? Does this law provide equitable relief for a future victim or actually weaken the current law?

    I reject the premise of this new law and believe it completely misses the mark. The reasoning behind this opinion is that city officials have consistently treated this case as an Internet harassment case instead of a child welfare/exploitation case.

    Classifying this case a harassment issue completely fails to address the most serious aspects of the methods Lori Drew employed to lead this youth to her demise. The Vice disagrees that harassment was even a factor in this case until just a couple of days before Megan's death.

    Considering this case a harassment issue is incorrect because during the 5 weeks Lori Drew baited and groomed her victim, the attention was NOT unwanted attention. It was not harassment at all. It was invited attention. Megan participated in the conversations willingly because she was lured, manipulated and exploited without her knowledge.

    This law willfully sets a precedent that future child exploiters and predators can use to reclassify their cases to harassment issues. In effect, the law enacted to give Megan justice, may make her even more vulnerable. So long as the child victim doesn't tell the predator to stop, even a harassment charge may not stick with the right circumstances and a good defender.

    Every aspect of this case follows the same procedural requirement used to convict a Child Predator. A child was manipulated by an adult. A child was engaged in sexually explicit conversation (as acknowledged by Lori Drew herself). An adult imposed her will on a child by misleading her, using a profile designed to sexually or intimately attract the 13 year old Megan.

    Lori then utilized the power she had gained over this child to cause significant distress and endangerment to that child. She even stipulated to many of these activities in the police report she filed shortly after Megan's death.

    We can go on and on here, but the parallels between this case and many other child predator cases that are successfully prosecuted bear striking similarities.

    Child Predator laws do not require much more than simply proving that an adult has engaged a minor in sexually explicit conversation. Lori Drew has already stipulated that her conversations with Megan were sometimes sexual for a child Megan's age.

    City officials who continue to ignore this viable, documented admission and continue to address this issue as harassment are intentionally burying their heads in the sand, when the solution is staring them right in the face. Why?

    On June 5th, 2006, Governor Matt Blunt signed into law stiff penalties for convicted sex offenders. The Vice believes that officials continually reject a child predator classification of this case in order to keep the penalty of this offense out of this harsher realm.

    Opponents of this law are active in defeating this law not by changing it, but by disqualifying cases like Megan's from ever being heard.

    There are several other child exploitation laws on the books. To date, none of them have even been considered by City, State and Federal officials in this case. I'm outraged that a motion was never even filed, so that the case could at least be argued before a judge or jury.

    Those satisfied with this response out of Missouri officials need to think through the effect this law will truly have. It quite honestly has the potential to directly undermine Jessica's law. It quiet easily gives prosecutors a way out of prosecuting child endangerment and child predator cases in the future.

    Beware the wolf in sheep's clothing here.

    Danny Vice

  3. It is important to note that there are two sides to every story, and this is no different.

    Megan's mother would do well to let it drop, already. It's old news.

  4. Lori Drew is a psychopath. That part is clear.

    But more disturbing than that are the actions of authorities: If it had been an adult MALE that "carried on" in a sexually explicit way with a 13 year old girl, even if it WERE for the purposes of revenge for his teen daughter, he'd be locked up as a pedophile.

    Second, there are al-READY laws on the books that cover this type of harassment. For chrissake: just implement them!

    What is particularly chilling to me, is that Lori Drew knew that the victim was known to be suicidal in the past. That means that her statement to her that the "world would be better off without you" or whatever it was... is even MORE chilling: it means she was TRYING to steer this girl to suicide. It means she had a desire to push it in that direction, and did so.

    Reminds me of Charles Manson. He never "technically" put his own hands upon his victims either, but he "made it happen" by manipulating people, I mean that's the premise upon which he was convicted: that he had INCITED it.

    Same thing here. Lori Drew incited this suicide and should be just as responsible as Manson was when he incited those murders---and she should also be treated just like any other adult who engages in online relationships of a sexual nature with under-aged children.

  5. What I find lacking in this discussion is the whole notion of cyber bullying to begin with. Whether it is an adult or a kid, it is getting out of control. It used to be a bully punched you or some girls got together, were very mean, excluded you and clearly made life miserable for you. But you could see them; you knew who they were, where they lived, etc. Now, you don’t have a clue who is bullying your child. A mom, a coach, a kid from another state, you may never find out. And it seems like these sites like myspace have a mob mentality; if one picks on you, they all join in. And they don’t even know you! I know all about first amendment rights, but come on! Someone needs to be policing this. Parents perhaps? The Myspace folks? I am not sure. But we are talking about kids here. It is getting crazy, out of control and because this story has made such headlines, perhaps it will finally get some real thought time. This is not just about a crazy mom in the suburbs, she is clearly not the norm. This is about what our kids are going through now and we as parents have no experience to fall back on to deal with this. There has to be a way to protect our kids from this. But what, and how?

  6. what a terrible, terrible story. the callous disregard of the neighbor and her self-justification when she found out that the child anyway had suicidal tendencies is shocking on its face; but, I may submit, is not atypical of certain classes of humans who out of their sense of isolation and insignificance prefer to torture the weak and innocent. this neighbor would have made an excellent concentration camp guard.

    my desire for revenge makes me wonder what action i could undertake to make this person’s life miserable. my desire for forgivenness makes me wonder how i can isolate this person from her misery. neither provides me with a satisfactory answer.

    the entire story, however, does underscore for me that our society’s default choice to legalize not helping other people (compelling us to formally adopt good samaritan laws, rather than compelling us to adopt out of good samaritan laws) continues to have direct and significant negative social consequences. this story underscores for me the need to legislate uniformally a duty on us to help our neighbors and to do away with our common law notions that we have no need to help our fellow citizens.


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