Thursday, August 25, 2011

Lack of empathy for Nostaligians


Nostalgia is part of being human - however, there comes a time to draw the line.

In the circa 1966 Beatles' song "In My lIfe," the listener is notified that material things (as well as people) are prone to change "some forever not for better."

While it is normal to mourn the passing of a loved one, friend or figure in the public eye (and appropriate to remember them on the anniversary of their death), it's quite another thing to attempt to "keep the memory alive." For what puropse, and for whom? Selfish regret? Inability to move on?

If the deceased individual had a mission, a goal or a declared "cause" - why not set up a foundation or a club or association to help one day realize the goal or futher expand the mission?

In my opinion it is mentally unhealthy to "over-mourn" and orchestrate "what-if" scenarios. I would instead encourage those organizers to look for living people in their communities, who also have admirable goals and aspirations, perhaps even mirroring those held by the dearly departed.

Humans also place sentimental value on material objects, including bridges, buildings and other structural entities.

Yeah, memories are great.

But please tear down anything old that is outdated, unsafe, unsightly, un-used.

Go ahead, "remember them on facebook" if you must. As my Grandma would say, "150 years from now it's not going to matter."



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1 comment:

The Twitterer said...

don't be too cruel

everybody wants to save a piece of what or who they loved

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