Cynthia Occelli is one of my wonderful internet friends whose struggles have taken her all the way to a leadership position as a self-help advocate. She has a remarkable story to tell (just Google her- she's amazing!) but one of her "teachings" if I may use that phrase involves something that can really gnaw at the human soul and psyche. Regret. Sometimes we find ourselves in life situations for which (at least momentarily from the vantage point where we sit at that time) we have precious few answers/solutions/alternatives. We gingerly walk through those points in time worrying, hoping, praying. We do our best.
"Forgive yourself for all the ways you disappointed yourself." You cannot look back on dark points in your past and think you could have done something to change the situation and beat yourself up wondering why you didn't. Especially when you know in your heart that you have "...done the best you could with what you knew."
"You cannot create something positive using the negativity of yesterday."
Cynthia is currently conducting a "21-day fast from negative self-judgement and criticism." Day 16, which addresses FORGIVENESS, is not only a "keeper" but a "sharer."